I originally posted this in April of 2008 on my other blog: Mom On The Run. It came to my mind this week after having 6 of my girlfriends over. We ALL have daughters turning 8 this year and they’re even more aware of the messages we send them now, then when I originally posted this 5 years ago. As Spring and summer are approaching, I felt it would be worth re-posting because my thoughts remain the same today.
I got an email last week from a friend:
Well, I did it. I bought a bathing suit. My first one in, oh, 12 years! Yikes.
Any one else feeling a little shy about wearing bathing suits in public?
I kinda wish I was pregnant so I’d have a valid excuse for having a tummy. Instead, I shake my fist at Shamrock Shakes and Easter chocolate. 😉
I’ve been really thinking about her email a lot this past week. You see, as a mom to
two three daughters I really have to be careful about the messages I send to them. Being the same-sex as them, I know that they’ll look up to me and learn from me. I want my girls to be confident women and comfortable in who they are, not who society tells them they should be. Her email made me think about my relationship with my body and my relationship with bathing suits.
You see, I can’t think of a single article of clothing that is more truthful than the bathing suit. It doesn’t hide anything. It doesn’t lie – all of our flaws are out there for the world to see.
But are they really flaws? Who says they’re flaws? Who says we aren’t supposed to have cellulite, spider veins, stretch marks, flabby bellies, love handles, back fat, moles etc…?
Where did we learn that from?
Our first social cues come from our parents, right?
So this is where I come in – if I want my girls to be confident in their bodies, then I have to be too. I’ve decided that everyone looks good in a bathing suit, myself included. I will wear my suit along with my cellulite, spider veins and stretch marks proudly. My girls don’t know what looks good and what supposedly doesn’t. All they know is that they like swimming, and they like swimming with mommy and daddy.I don’t intend to introduce them to what “looks good” ’cause I truly believe the thing that looks best on everyone is confidence.
This summer, when I swim with my girls I will strut my stuff proudly and be the role-model I want to be for them.
Summer, here we come!
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