This is something I often tell my daughters, but don’t always obey myself. I’m known for putting undue pressure on myself, and when I don’t “win” I get deeply disappointed in myself. When it comes to sports I’m great at just trying my best and understanding that sometimes (most of the time) other people are more skilled, better prepared etc than me. When I race, my race is really just against myself. Though when it comes to my work life I always want to win. I’m very competitive like that. Perhaps it’s because I’ve had a lot of practice not winning with sports, and much less experience not winning with work, that not winning at work bothers me much more.
You don’t always have to win, you just have to try your best.
I don’t really talk much about my work life here, but I felt like this life lesson that I’ve recently learned was important to share because it can be applied to so many areas of our lives. By now I’m sure you’re wondering what’s going on with me. Why have I been so quiet and not blogging very much? So what’s going on?
I recently found myself in a work situation where it would be very nice to “win”. I’ve tried to “win” this one thing before and I haven’t been successful. Being unsuccessful left me feeling angry, uninspired and disengaged. Motivating myself to get back on the proverbial horse was really hard. This time though I decided to take some of my advice, and I decided that instead of focusing on winning, I would focus on trying my best and improving my skills.
Now I have no idea what the results of this work thing is yet, but I want to share with you that it’s truly amazing what a change in focus can do for your self-confidence and performance! I definitely feel like I was better prepared, less nervous and performed better than I have in past. Regardless of the outcome I feel like I was able to reach my goal. I took my advice, got back on that horse, tried my best and improved. I have a lot more confidence in who I am and what I do at work now and I feel that I just learned a valuable lesson:
Trying your best and winning are one and the same, regardless of the outcome of the competition.
Do you struggle with not winning as well?
How have you overcome the fear of losing to try again?